Watch the Power of Your Words
Careful Word Selection Makes Every Relationship Better
The tongue may be small, but the words that can be spewed from it can be powerfully painful to others. We’ve all said things that we instantly regret. As a result of not thinking before we speak, we have had to pay the price for the effect our words have on others. With that in mind it could go without saying that there are just some things you should never say, especially to the love of your life.
Among the things that should never come out of your mouth are words that can be hurtful. If you make insinuations or directly insult your partner, the results can be devastating. So for example, if things are not going smoothly due to your partner not doing something that he or she is supposed to do, it is not wise or kind to demand an explanation or to insinuate that they are being lazy. The best approach in this case would be to inquire about it; perhaps you could even offer to help with the chore to help diffuse an argument or avoid it entirely.
Words that are insulting and words that can easily be confused as being insulting should be avoided. It is also wise to refrain from calling your partner a name that is derogatory in nature. This is especially true when having a disagreement. Other words to avoid are those that might imply that your partner no longer physically or intellectually appeals to you.
Basically, it is advisable to follow the advice of our parents, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. A lot of grief and hassle can be avoided by taking the time to think before we speak. Since the aftermath of hurtful words can harm another person for a long time, we all need to be cautious and aware of the fact that words can never be taken back.
Unfortunately, when we are upset or angry, or even when we are just playing around, it is all too easy to say something wrong or to say something in the wrong manner. When speaking with your better half there are some things you might want to keep in mind. One of these things is to try to be more selective with your choice of words. If your partner is easily upset you definitely need to be selective with the words you use when approaching sensitive subjects.
A good way to develop the habit of using kinder words is to think about the past. Try to reflect back on particular disagreements and situations when your choice of words did not go over so well. Ask yourself what words would have been a better choice versus the ones you used. You could also try to recall times when you might have been teasing your partner and it ended up hurting his or her feelings. After recalling the times your words made a mess of things, develop a plan to be more selective with the words you choose to use answer questions or respond to situations in the future.